I have noticed that after high school and if you didn’t attend college its hard finding stable and loyal friends. Even if you’re at a state school, friendship is hard to find.
Like as soon as you hit 21 and older the circle of your friends decline like every year. This example is for an average female straight or lesbian/bisexual:
Female starts with five friends
Year one: friend #1 gets a boyfriend and hangout time decreases
Year 2: Friend #2 and 3 both get pregnant so hangout and phone calls decrease
Year 3: Friend #4 moves out of state. One less hangout partner
Year 4: Friend #5 just goes ghost for no apparent reason, you don’t know if she is alive.
Year 5: Friend 1 gets engaged. Friend #2 get married and Friend 3 after trying to convince you to have a baby but failing, she decides not be your friend anymore. She wants “mommy friends”.
This can vary from friend to friend, or it can be guy friends instead of women. Some friends might end up going to prison for awhile also so that can be factored in.
Anyway, its understandable that life happens and it can get chaotic. But my question is how do you select a group of friends like girlfriends, the cast of living single and hell even friends? Is there an application out there that? I bet on the friendship application one of the questions are : Are you loyal and stable? Stable meaning mentally which we all should value more instead of looking for friends that can wear heels all day or something superficial like that. A lot of people encountered crazy friends(Hello Single White Female) so its based to focus on commonality then looking for a friend to match their fly.
What do y’all think? Do you have long-term friends? Have you ever been ghosted by your friends? How did that make you feel?